Hiya beautiful guys and dolls! I know I've been missing in action for a few days, but traveling is hard.
H is for HONESTY.
Be honest with yourself.
Be honest with your family.
Be honest with your friends.
I know there is a fine line between honesty and kindness. WHAT??? Yes, I said that. Why? Because, there are times when I don't want to hurt someone's feelings. Maybe their writing is way off, their characters are flat, and the plot is terrible. But they are m friend and I don't want to hurt their feelings.
Is that a license to not be honest and say, "This is great! Just a little tightening up and you've nailed it!" Rather than be honest, it's easy to skirt around the issue and "be nice."
This can go so many directions. It doesn't only apply to critiquing.
Is her outfit really hideous and you just can't find a way to say it?
Do you really not want to go to the party, but it's been planned for months and you don't want to hurt his feelings? So you say your sick.
I had an opportunity two weeks ago to do something. I could have changed some of the smallest things about my manuscript and I would be saying today, "My book is getting published!"
I would have had to been dishonest to myself. I would have had to change somethings I didn't want to change. I thought about it and decided I would be true to myself and my story, to be honest with my heart and my desires.
So today, I challenge you: just be honest. I pays off in the long run.